So, how can I describe my life to you?! To start off, I was born on September 1, 1981 in Bihar, India. I immigrated to the United States in 1985 with my family, and grew up in the Washington, DC Metropolitan area. I always joke with my parents that I was probably an accident since they had me eight years after my older sister was born; I assume I was conceived on New Year’s Eve 1980 since I was born exactly nine months later. But I have no desire whatsoever to ask and verify this information!
I don’t have any kids nor have I ever had the biological urge to be a mother. I am extremely close to my 22 year-old niece, Asha, and 19 year-old nephew, Anish. They have filled that void of motherhood, so I don’t feel the need to have any biological children. I have an entire village of extended family with almost one hundred relatives in the United States and God knows how many relatives in India. Yes, Indians love to procreate!
I have a Masters Degree in Human Resource Management from the University of Maryland. I have worked for Freddie Mac, Fannie Mae, Wells Fargo, along with several other major corporations. Currently, I am a Corporate Recruiter III at Navy Federal Credit Union and a first-time author. In the last 14 years, I have hired thousands of professionals in Information Technology, Sales, Data Science, Analytics, Marketing, and Project Management.
Some perks of working in the field of Human Resources is that you are in a position of influence and respect and have the power to guide others on creating their careers.
I have always wanted to write a book but didn’t know how to start. So, I took baby steps by starting my own blog page and wrote little by little every week. My previous blog page was the first place I published my unconventional and cynical opinions on thought-provoking social topics. What started as a blog discussing personal frustrations with the world, turned into a full-fledged booked. This book is a powerful account of my experiences as a survivor of adversities and the life lessons I learned the hard way.
Obviously, I can’t change my history, but I have learned to make something good out of something bad, which is why I turned my personal journey into advocacy for other women. This includes working with several nonprofits. Recently, I was interviewed by a San Francisco based non-profit called Narika. Narika is an organization that provides support and resources for abuse survivors and women empowerment.
In addition, I am an active member of a networking platform called Lady Drinks in New York City. LadyDrinks provides a platform for a diverse group of like-minded women to connect and build a professional and social network. A huge perk of this membership is the amount of resources I’ve been given by the other members and by LadyDrinks Founder, Joya Dass. These resources have helped me tremendously in connecting with the right people as a first-time author.
One of the biggest truths of my life is that I am a survivor of a lot of adversities. My book takes you on a journey of the vicious and confusing cycle of abuse a lot of people are stuck in.
I was inspired to write this book after watching interviews of Leslie Morgan Steiner. Leslie is a New York Times Best Selling Author and survivor of adversities. As I listened to her interviews on YouTube, everything she said about her journey resonated with me. Hers is an incredible story of self-empowerment and overcoming adversities.
Listening to her was a turning point in my own life.
Getting to know me
People describe me as a confident and fiercely independent woman who gets shit done. Friends and family love my snarky-unfiltered sense of humor and I don’t tolerate bullshit from anyone. Despite these tough qualities, I lost my inner power along the way and didn’t even realize it.
The struggles I have gone through were only a segment of my life, not my entire life. Outside of this, I do have a fun and silly side which people see, eventually.
I describe myself as an introverted extrovert who loves socializing but is selective about who I socialize with. My guilty pleasures include Bravo TV reality shows – I rarely miss an episode of the “The Real Housewives” franchise! One important item in my bucket list is to visit every state in the United States. So far, I have visited only 19, so there’s a long way to go.
Because I am not your ‘cookie-cutter’ Indian woman and far from the status-quo, I am often misunderstood, misjudged, and harshly criticized by others. I am notorious for having a stoic RBF (Resting Bitch Face) but want people to know that I actually know how to laugh!
Yes, I have a cynical personality, but I’ve become this way because of tough circumstances and difficult people I’ve dealt with my entire life. Anytime I trusted someone, it backfired. Because of so many harsh experiences, I sometimes see the bad in the world more than the good. But I still remind myself of how blessed and privileged I am for having an opportunity to tell my story.
I want my readers and followers to know who the real Swati is! She is a loving woman who, despite many challenges, still has a compassionate heart, an adorable sense of humor, and will always have a fighting spirit.
Some fun facts about me!
- I was an audience member on the game show “The Price is Right!” I speculate that I wasn’t one of the “come on down!” people because they couldn’t pronounce my name.
- As a child of the 80’s, I had a crush on Balki from Perfect Strangers.
- I am addicted to tea and coffee. If I don’t drink either one daily, I get a migraine.
- I absolutely love rainy-warm weather (not cold rain!). The sound of rain is very therapeutic to me.
- My first job was with the Montgomery County Police Department at age 17. I shadowed criminal lawyers, went on ride-alongs with the cops, and witnessed crime scenes.
- I have an incredible memory, which includes visuals of my house in India when I was three years old.
- Learning how to speak Italian is on my bucket list.
- I’m not a good swimmer, but I love being near the beach, pool, waterfall, and lake.
- Some of my favorites: (cuisine) Thai, (dessert) ice-cream, (season) Autumn, (music) 80’s and early 90’s,
- Some of my pastimes: Reading American history, watching war documentaries, Netflix, Hulu, Prime, writing, walking, bike riding, and gossiping.