So, how can I describe my life to you?! To start off, I was born on September 1, 1981 in Bihar, India. I immigrated to the United States in 1985 with my family, and grew up in the Washington, DC Metropolitan area. I always joke with my parents that I was probably an accident since they had me eight years after my older sister was born; I assume I was conceived on New Year’s Eve 1980 since I was born exactly nine months later. But I have no desire whatsoever to ask and verify this information!
I don’t have any kids nor have I ever had the biological urge to be a mother. I am extremely close to my 22 year-old niece, Asha, and 19 year-old nephew, Anish. They have filled that void of motherhood, so I don’t feel the need to have any biological children. I have an entire village of extended family with almost one hundred relatives in the United States and God knows how many relatives in India. Yes, Indians love to procreate!
I have a masters degree in Human Resource Management from the University of Maryland. I have worked for Freddie Mac, Fannie Mae, Wells Fargo, along with several other major corporations. Currently, I am a Corporate Recruiter III at Navy Federal Credit Union and a first-time author. In the last 14 years, I have hired thousands of professionals in IT, sales, data science, analytics, marketing, and project management.
Some perks of working in the field of HR is that you are in a position of influence and respect and have the power to guide others on creating their careers.
I have always wanted to write a book but didn’t know how to start. So, I took baby steps by starting my own blog page and wrote little by little every week. My previous blog page was the first place I published my unconventional and cynical opinions on thought-provoking social topics. What started as a blog discussing personal frustrations with the world, turned into a full-fledged booked.
I’ve tried using my personal journey into advocacy for other women. This includes working with several nonprofits. Recently, I was interviewed by a San Francisco based non-profit called Narika. Narika is an organization that provides support and resources for abuse survivors and women empowerment.
In addition, I previously was an active member of a networking platform called Lady Drinks in New York City. LadyDrinks provides a platform for a diverse group of like-minded women to connect and build a professional and social network. A huge perk of this membership is the amount of resources I was been given by the other members and by LadyDrinks Founder, Joya Dass. These resources have helped me tremendously in connecting with the right people as a first-time author.
Getting to know me
People describe me as a confident and fiercely independent woman who gets shit done. Friends and family love my snarky-unfiltered sense of humor. Despite these tough qualities, I lost my inner power along the way and didn’t even realize it.
The struggles I have gone through were only a segment of my life, not my entire life. Outside of this, I do have a fun and silly side which people see, eventually.
I describe myself as an introverted extrovert who loves socializing but is selective about who I socialize with. My guilty pleasures include Bravo TV reality shows – I rarely miss an episode of the “The Real Housewives” franchise! One important item in my bucket list is to visit every state in the United States. So far, I have visited only 19, so there’s a long way to go.
Because I am not your ‘cookie-cutter’ Indian woman and far from the status-quo, I am often misunderstood, misjudged, and harshly criticized by others. I am notorious for having a stoic RBF (Resting Bitch Face) but want people to know that I actually know how to laugh!
Yes, I have a cynical personality, but I’ve become this way because of tough circumstances and difficult people I’ve dealt with my entire life. Anytime I trusted someone, it backfired. Because of so many harsh experiences, I sometimes see the bad in the world more than the good. But I still remind myself of how blessed and privileged I am for having an opportunity to tell my story.
I want my readers and followers to know who the real Swati is! She is a loving woman who, despite many challenges, still has a compassionate heart, an adorable sense of humor, and will always have a fighting spirit.
Some fun facts about me!
- I was an audience member on the game show “The Price is Right!” I speculate that I wasn’t one of the “come on down!” people because they couldn’t pronounce my name.
- As a child of the 80’s, I had a crush on Balki from Perfect Strangers.
- I am addicted to tea and coffee. If I don’t drink either one daily, I get a migraine.
- I absolutely love rainy-warm weather (not cold rain!). The sound of rain is very therapeutic to me.
- My first job was with the Montgomery County Police Department at age 17. I shadowed criminal lawyers, went on ride-alongs with the cops, and witnessed crime scenes.
- I have an incredible memory, which includes visuals of my house in India when I was three years old.
- Learning how to speak Italian is on my bucket list.
- I’m not a good swimmer, but I love being near the beach, pool, waterfall, and lake.
- Some of my favorites: (cuisine) Thai, (dessert) ice-cream, (season) Autumn, (music) 80’s and early 90’s,
- Some of my pastimes: Reading American history, watching war documentaries, Netflix, Hulu, Prime, writing, walking, bike riding, and gossiping.